十种方法 教你维系远距离恋爱

A long distance relationship is a trial of patience for two people in love. I've had my share of them due to my job commitments and at this stage in time, university degree requirement. In this article I will share several ideas on ways to not only sustain a pre-existing relationship but also develop it further.

I am assuming that you two have already been in a relationship for a reasonable amount of time. Your time together is precious and sacred and both of you appreciate the fact that among thousands of people out there, the two of you chose to be together. I assume here that there are no lies, that both are committed to the relationship.

Truth is, your biggest enemy is time. But at the same time, time squandered is a waste. For example, you spend all your life pining away for your partner hundreds or thousands of miles away when the thing that needs doing - your job, your degree, your life - is put on hold. Stop. You might say, "Well, its all part of the fun isn't it? Staying up late, listening to silly soppy songs on radio, re-reading old letters. Where's the harm in that?" Frankly, ma'am, a little is alright but a lot is way out of context.

Balance is the key to maintaining sanity in a long distance relationship. True, you may love him/her. But if you spend all your time focusing on how much you miss him/her, it will affect your moods and just make you a duller person.

On with the list of of Ten Ideas to Sustain A Long Distance Relationship

远距离恋爱对于相爱的两人来说是一种考验。我对此颇有所感，是因为我的工作承诺以及我这一阶段需要获得的大学学位使我踏入了远距离恋爱的行列。在以下文字中，我将与大家分享一些方法，教你如何不仅维系好已经存在的恋爱关系，更能够使之很好地发展下去。

假定你们俩已经在一起有一段时间了，那些时间对你们来说一定是珍贵而又神圣的。你们都感激上帝让你们在芸芸众生中选择与对方在一起。假定你们之间没有谎言，彼此都忠于这份感情。

那么，事实上，你们最大的敌人会是时间。但是，同时，花大量的过多的时间却也是一种铺张浪费。比如说，你把所有的精力花在为你那几百或者几千英里外的另一半而憔悴消瘦，这种时候，你正把需要做的工作，你需要完成的学业甚至你自己的生活搁置一边。“嘿！等等！”你会说，“呃，但是这正是乐趣所在，不是吗？熬夜，聆听收音机里传来的痴情的歌曲，重读旧情书，这又有何害处呢？”坦白地说，小姐，难得几次是可以的，但是，过分多地这样子做就有问题了。

找到平衡点是一段远距离恋爱稳步发展的关键所在。是的，你爱他或她。但是如果你把你所有的时间花在计算你有多想他或者她的话，那将影响你的情绪，也将让你变得更加无趣。

下面让我们开始看看这十种维系远距离恋爱的方法吧。

Have DVD Fridays/Weekends

The idea is that even though you're apart, it wouldn't hurt to synchronize watching a movie rental together. At least, after the movie, you can have a chat about the movie. Whether you liked it or not, or whether you identified with this or that character. At the very least, it's a conversation topic.